Why so Serious?

I am the more serious type. I’ve realized that a lot about myself lately. Especially when I am initially in new situations or environments.

I wouldn't really call it serious though. I would just call it more thoughtful.

I like watching people and things. I like to see what’s going on and how the world is going around. I like to put things together, I like to find connections, and I like to get answers and solve problems.

But that doesn't mean I'm serious all the time. I honestly love having fun. I love it to an absolute extreme degree. Serious people often know how to have the best fun. It’s not something that I focus on in every aspect of my life, but it is something I try to put into every area of my life on a very regular basis. Rarely am I the silly type though. Silly and serious don’t usually go together. Sometimes I’m goofy, and that’s okay. I can be really goofy sometimes. But rarely ever am I silly. I enjoy clever wit and good humor.

I also don’t believe in begging for attention. Attention is not always bad, nor is it always good. People that beg for attention rarely ever get the good kind though. What do I mean by begging for attention? Here are a couple examples:

Doing things you wouldn’t normally do in order to get noticed.

Or putting others down or making them look stupid in order to get a laugh from other people.

Or even wearing certain clothing or acting in certain ways that are sure to bring undesirable looks or actions from people in return.

Basically trying to force people to notice you and what you’re doing. A good life lesson for almost anything is that if you’re trying too hard to force it, it’s probably not worth it or meant to be.

Working at it is different than forcing it though. Way different.

Working at being friends vs. trying to force it.

Working at winning vs. trying to force it.

Working at a relationship vs. trying to force it.

So many things just have to grow naturally, along with a lot of help and work from you.

But if you ever find yourself not being yourself, you might really want to take some time to reevaluate. If you have to be someone different to try and catch a guy or girl than you might want to realize that it’s not really you that they would be falling in love with.

If you are acting different to try and get people to see you than you will need to understand that it’s not you that they are seeing. Rather, it’s your odd behavior.

They’ll know when it’s really you, and they’ll know when it’s not. Maybe not right this moment, but eventually. And then you’ll have a lot of explaining to do. Mostly to yourself, about why you are not accepting yourself for who you are.

Work to improve who you are rather than just trying to pretend to be something you’re not.

And ultimately, please realize that what you may think will catch that guy/girl or get people’s attention on you probably is just something that society has dreamed up. Like being overly giddy, or perfectly anything, or always funny. Those may seem good, but…

Some of the best fishing lures here will always, ALWAYS be: genuineness, honesty, and a constant stride for improvement.

That’s it. It’s that simple. Just be yourself. Not who you think you should be, or trying to copy what others are.

And if they’re not interested in you after that, well…. Don’t force it.

It’s not worth it, and that’s okay. There are always still a million more.

Tara Howard

Copyright Sep. 2016