Gospel Topic # 4: "The Evils of Pornography"

My beloved friends, under no circumstances allow yourselves to become trapped in the viewing of pornography, one of the most effective of Satan’s enticements. And if you have allowed yourself to become involved in this behavior, cease now. Seek the help you need to overcome and to change the direction of your life. Take the steps necessary to get back on the strait and narrow, and then stay there.

President Thomas S. Monson, "Until We Meet Again", April 2009 General Conference

The world in which young people live is changing rapidly.... Clothing is less modest. Pornography has moved into the open. Not only has tolerance for wickedness increased, but much of what was called wrong is no longer condemned at all and may, even by our Latter-day Saint youth, be admired....

The spiritual strength sufficient for our youth to stand firm just a few years ago will soon not be enough. Many of them are remarkable in their spiritual maturity and in their faith. But even the best of them are sorely tested. And the testing will become more severe.

The youth are responsible for their own choices. But as faithful parents, teachers, leaders, and friends, we shore up the faith of young people. And we must raise our sights.

President Henry B. Eyring, "We Must Raise Our Sights", September 2004 Ensign

But be cautious. These same technologies can allow evil influences to cross the threshold of your homes. These dangerous traps are only a mouse click away. Pornography, violence, intolerance, and ungodliness destroy families, marriages, and individual lives.

President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, "A Matter of a Few Degrees", April 2008 General Conference

Strangely enough, it may be that the simplest and most powerful prevention and cure for pornography, or any unclean act, is to ignore and avoid it. Delete from the mind any unworthy thought that tries to take root. Once you have decided to remain clean, you are asserting your God-given agency. And then, as President Smith counseled, “Don’t look back.”

President Boyd K. Packer, "Cleansing the Inner Vessel", October 2010 General Conference

That caution pertains to pornography, which is highly addictive. In time, addictions enslave both the body and the spirit. Full repentance from addiction is best accomplished in this life, while we still have a mortal body to help us.

As children of God, we should not let anything enter the body that might defile it. We will cherish our chastity and avoid “foolish and hurtful lusts, which drown [us] in destruction and perdition” (1 Timothy 6:9). We will “flee these things; and follow after righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, [and] meekness” (1 Timothy 6:11)—traits that edify the whole soul.

Who are we? We are children of God. Our potential is unlimited. Our inheritance is sacred. May we always honor that heritage—in every thought and deed.

Elder Russell M. Nelson, "You Are a Child of God", July 2008 New Era

The immediate spiritual consequences of such hypocrisy are devastating. Those who seek out and use pornography forfeit the power of their priesthood. The Lord declares: “When we undertake to cover our sins, … behold, the heavens withdraw themselves; the Spirit of the Lord is grieved; and when it is withdrawn, Amen to the priesthood or the authority of that man” (D&C 121:37).

Patrons of pornography also lose the companionship of the Spirit. Pornography produces fantasies that destroy spirituality. “To be carnally minded is death”—spiritual death (Rom. 8:6; see also 2 Ne. 9:39).

Elder Dallin H. Oaks, "Pornography", April 2005 General Conference

May the joy of our fidelity to the highest and best within us be ours as we keep our love and our marriages, our society and our souls, as pure as they were meant to be.

Elder Jeffrey R. Holland, "Place No More for the Enemy of My Soul", May 2010 Liahona

Participation in pornography in any of its lurid forms is a manifestation of unbridled selfishness. How can a man, particularly a priesthood bearer, not think of the emotional and spiritual damage caused to women, especially his wife, by such abhorrent activity?

Well did inspired Nephi declare, “And [the devil] will … pacify, and lull them away into carnal security, … and thus [he] cheateth their souls, and leadeth them away carefully down to hell.” ³

If you are ensnarled in pornography, make a total commitment to overcome it now. Find a quiet place; pray urgently for help and support. Be patient and obedient. Don’t give up.

Parents, be aware that the addiction of pornography can begin with youth at a very early age. Take preventative action to avoid that tragedy. Stake presidents and bishops, warn of this evil. Invite anyone you consider captured by it to come to you for help.

Elder Richard G. Scott, "To Acquire Spiritual Guidance", October 2009 General Conference

Because the Spirit whispers to us gently and delicately, it is easy to understand why we should shun inappropriate media, pornography, and harmful, addictive substances and behaviors. These tools of the adversary can impair and eventually destroy our capacity to recognize and respond to the subtle messages from God delivered by the power of His Spirit. Each of us should consider seriously and ponder prayerfully how we can reject the devil’s enticements and righteously “apply unto it,” even the spirit of revelation, in our personal lives and families.

Elder David A. Bednar, "The Spirit of Revelation", April 2011 General Conference

I know that some of you are struggling with the tenacious power of Internet pornography. You come away from such encounters ashamed and sickened, vowing that you will never again allow yourself to give in to such temptation. Such determination is good, but you need to take intervening action when you are calm and away from the influence of those images. Move your computer into a room where there is always the possibility of someone walking in on you. Make sure the monitor faces the room so that others can see what is on the screen at any time. There are inexpensive software programs that help screen out pornographic sites and unsolicited pornographic e-mail. Take action when you are strong so that if you are tempted you will have armed yourself and it will be much more difficult to fall.

Elder M. Russell Ballard, "Be Strong in the Lord", July 2004 Ensign

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My Position Statement:

I have known some people that have struggled with pornography. It seemed that at times they would get back on the right path, only to veer off again into the deep, filthy waters. It is a continuing struggle for them, and possibly one that they may not entirely be able to overcome in this life. 

Pornography has such destructive powers. It can ruin people, lives, and whole families. 

We have got to stay strong, and stay as far away from it as we possibly can. It will only lead to misery and unhappiness. Don't even touch it, or go anywhere near it. It will only destroy you.

Tara Howard

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Gospel Topic # 3: Agency

I am so grateful to a loving Heavenly Father for His gift of agency, or the right to choose. Each of us has come to this earth with all the tools necessary to make correct choices. The prophet Mormon tells us, “The Spirit of Christ is given to every man, that he may know good from evil” (Moroni 7:16).
President Thomas S. Monson, "Decide Right Now", October 2010 General Conference Address








That is so because God gave us agency, not just as a right but as a necessity. We must choose with our agency to obey in faith that the promised blessing will come, that the promise is true because it comes from God. 
Henry B. Eyring, "A Life Founded in Light and Truth", July 2001

 You have agency, and you are free to choose. But there is actually no free agency. Agency has its price. You have to pay the consequences of your choices. 

Human agency was purchased with the price of Christ’s suffering. The power of Christ’s Atonement overcomes the effect of sin on the condition of wholehearted repentance. Through and by the Savior’s universal and infinite Atonement, all have been redeemed from the Fall and have become free forever to act for themselves (see 2 Ne. 2:26).

President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, "On the Wings of Eagles", From a Brigham Young University devotional address given on November 11, 2003.

No Father would send His children off to a distant, dangerous land for a lifetime of testing where Lucifer was known to roam free without first providing them with a personal power of protection. He would also supply them with means to communicate with Him from Father to child and from child to Father. Every child of our Father sent to earth is provided with the Spirit of Christ, or the Light of Christ. ¹ We are, none of us, left here alone without hope of guidance and redemption.

President Boyd K. Packer, "Prayer and Promptings", October 2009



Those of us who have been around a while—and Elder Wirthlin and I have been around for a long time—have recognized certain patterns in life’s test. There are cycles of good and bad times, ups and downs, periods of joy and sadness, and times of plenty as well as scarcity. When our lives turn in an unanticipated and undesirable direction, sometimes we experience stress and anxiety. One of the challenges of this mortal experience is to not allow the stresses and strains of life to get the better of us—to endure the varied seasons of life while remaining positive, even optimistic. 
L. Tom Perry, "Let Him Do It With Simplicity", October 2008



But the final responsibility to prepare for salvation and exaltation rests upon each person, accountable for individual agency, acting in one’s own family, bearing another sacred title of mother, father, daughter, son, grandmother, or grandfather.

Russel M. Nelson, "Salvation and Exaltation", April 2008








To achieve our eternal destiny, we will desire and work for the qualities required to become an eternal being. For example, eternal beings forgive all who have wronged them. They put the welfare of others ahead of themselves. And they love all of God’s children. If this seems too difficult—and surely it is not easy for any of us—then we should begin with a desire for such qualities and call upon our loving Heavenly Father for help with our feelings. 

Dallin H. Oaks, "Desire", April 2011




As children of our Heavenly Father, we have been blessed with the gift of moral agency, the capacity and power of independent action. Endowed with agency, we are agents, and we primarily are to act and not merely be acted upon—especially as we “seek learning … by study and also by faith” (D&C 88:118).

David A. Bednar, "Watching With All Perseverance", May 2010







Remember that with His gift of moral agency, our Heavenly Father has graciously provided us help to exercise that agency in a way that will yield precious, positive fruit in our life here and hereafter. 

D. Todd Christofferson, "Moral Agency", Ensign June 2009








Impressions of the Spirit can come in response to urgent prayer or unsolicited when needed. Sometimes the Lord reveals truth to you when you are not actively seeking it, such as when you are in danger and do not know it. However, the Lord will not force you to learn. You must exercise your agency to authorize the Spirit to teach you. As you make this a practice in your life, you will be more perceptive to the feelings that come with spiritual guidance. Then, when that guidance comes, sometimes when you least expect it, you will recognize it more easily.

Richard G. Scott, "To Acquire Spiritual Guidance", October 2009 General Conference





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My position Statement:
Agency is a big key to the plan of salvation. Satan tried to take away our Agency, but that was contrary to God's plan. Without Agency, everything falls to pieces. We must be able to choose our lives and make our own decisions. That is how we learn and grow. The consequences that come are important. We should not be forced to be good, or to make the exact right decisions. That was Satan's plan, but it is wrong. The whole purpose of the Plan of Salvation is to be happy, and without Agency, we could never possibly be happy. 

Tara Howard
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The Purpose of Education

                

               The ultimate goal in this world is simply to understand. We were sent to this earth for a purpose, and it wasn’t just to live and then die. We need to be seeking for total understanding of absolutely any and all righteous subjects we desire. Ludwig Van Beethoven once said, “Don’t only practice your art, but force your way into its secrets. For it, and knowledge, can raise men to the divine.” (Beethoven) There is no greater joy than understanding, and the wisdom that comes with it. It takes a lifetime to understand something, and only a moment to change that understanding. It is something you must constantly be seeking for. It does not matter in what area you choose, but try to fully understand something, for that will open the doors to every single other area of knowledge that exists. Every area of knowledge is connected together in a thick network that is penetrable one thread at a time through diligence. Becoming perfect and all-knowledgeable, such as God is, will not just happen overnight when we get resurrected or anything. We will still have to work for it, so we may as well get a head start on it right now. Knowledge is the source of understanding; and understanding is the source of wisdom. We must gain all three.

           There is not much more important in this world than obtaining an education. We have great institutions set up for the continuous learning of studious pupils, as well as great masses of books and other educational writings available at our fingertips. Since we were young it has been pounded into our heads the need to go to college and get a degree, but why? I will touch on a few points, including what you should study, why, and what you can do with the things you have learned.

Some of the world’s greatest people have never obtained a formal education. Why do we place such an emphasis on it then? Brilliant minds don’t just happen; they must be nurtured and grown. Whether or not the education was formal does not mean they never got one. Some of the best education that has been reached has been informal. In Elder David A. Bednar’s article titled “Learning to Love Learning”, he stated that “The type of learning I am attempting to describe is not merely the accumulation of data and facts and frameworks; rather, it is acquiring and applying knowledge for righteousness.” (Bednar 2) The extraordinary thing about learning is that it doesn’t matter what you learn, as long as it is useful and interesting to you. In my case, I am at a university obtaining an education with the hopes of eventually getting a master’s degree. To me though, that college degree is not the most important education that I am reaching for right now. Although some might disagree, my training in the Martial Arts is even more important to me. Some people have indignantly contradicted me in my hopes for the future, but I know what’s important to me. I love it, and that is what matters. Just because someone, or everyone, might not see the usefulness of the particular education you are obtaining, that doesn’t mean it is wrong. If it is taking you down the right paths, giving you valuable knowledge, and giving you a place to go, then there is nothing wrong with it. Keep that in mind as you seek and set up the pieces of your future.

The greatest ability that continuous knowledge gives us is the ability to venture out on our own to seek and change the world to how we want it to be. Until you learn to tie your own shoes and feed yourself, you cannot break away from your parents and live life your own way. As such, until you learn the things you need to, you cannot break away from society as a whole and make your own paths. As you gain more knowledge, more of the world opens up to you. Nobody wants to just be part of the masses as they move. There is nothing substantial in that, and quite often they are wrong or jumping off of figurative cliffs without thinking first. Hitler had a good idea of how the masses worked. Aldous Huxley described how Hitler thought of the masses in his article titled “The Love of Learning.” He wrote that “the masses are utterly contemptible. They are incapable of abstract thinking and uninterested in any fact outside the circle of their immediate experience. Their behavior is determined, not by knowledge and reason, but by feelings and unconscious drives.” (Huxley 3) We cannot break away from the masses until we have gained sufficient knowledge to do so. Whatever education you strive for, make it proficient enough that you will not be constantly led on by those who wish you to just blindly believe. Granted, you will not be able to obtain all the knowledge of the world in even fifty lifetimes, but general education in all areas will give you enough to get started.

              In the article titled “The Love of Learning” by David McCullough, he talked about how knowledge is not memorizing facts or anything like it, although that can be important. It can be a key in your life through some doorway, or out of some critical situation. The real importance of it though is what we decide to make of it. How we decide to use it will determine its usefulness to us. (McCullough 2) Too often there is too great an emphasis placed on memorizing facts such as the bones in our body, or important dates of the past. What you’ve got to realize is that the memorization is only the very beginning of learning. It is only the very scratch on the surface of the iron cage you are in. In order to break free and enter the world and discover all its value, you’ve got to know how to use that knowledge. You’ve got to go beyond the bounds that your teachers and coaches have set for you and discover what more there is to find. You cannot be taught and spoon fed everything. The most important part of learning is discovering things on your own, figuring out how they fit together, and working to use them in your life in whatever ways you might need to. Everything you learn should make you want to learn more.

              Finally, your overall purpose in learning should include a deep desire to give back to the world the education that it gave you. Face it, learning is fun. There is almost no greater joy to be found in this world. As the generations pass, and we each learn, our new knowledge is compounded with our experiences and the knowledge is deepened and then passed on to those who come after us. Your knowledge came partially from others before you, and so you must give back too. That is the whole grand design behind learning. David Bednar also stated that:

Perhaps President Young was such a consummate learner precisely because he was not constrained unduly by the arbitrary boundaries so often imposed through the structures and processes of formal education. He clearly learned to love learning. He clearly learned how to learn. He ultimately became a powerful disciple and teacher precisely because he first was an effective learner. (Bednar, 2)

As you learn, you will become a teacher; you will become a guide to your children, your friends, anyone around you. One leads to the other, just as day follows night. Knowledge in the world then becomes a great snowball that just keeps rolling, gaining more substance, and gaining more momentum as the time goes on. That will only happen if we allow our contributions to the world of knowledge to be made known. Give back what has been given to you, with your own little seasoning and extra, inspired ingredients added to it too. What you find is yours to keep, but don’t be selfish by keeping it back from either people too. As you share knowledge with each other, everyone will grow and discover something new. Nobody can be totally knowledgeable in everything, but everyone together can be totally knowledgeable in everything. We need each other, and we need to all help each other along.

               Education has a million purposes behind it, although I only talked about a few. That is the whole reason behind us being born here and sent on the journey of life. We cannot neglect it, and we cannot let it die within us. Give back to the world the knowledge you have obtained. Don’t just let the superficial facts clutter your mind, but learn to dig deeper to find the treasured gems. The best things in life are not easy to get. Take what you know and run with it to the next level. I don’t care what you study. Just study what you love, and learn to love what you study. If it was me, I would be spending all day in a Martial Arts school learning kicks, throws, weapons, and any other possible knowledge in that area that I could lay my hands on. If you want to learn everything about butterflies or the values of strawberry pancakes, I say “Go for it!” The world needs knowledge in all areas, not just math, science, and English. Find what you love, and make it every bit of it a part of you, and a part of the world around you.

Tara J. Howard

Copyright 2014

The Country Princess

A young girl born then, and raised quite wild,
Running 'round barefoot and free.
Her hair always tangled, her clothes ripped and dirty,
From climbing around tree to tree.

Her parents may have tried to raise her up proper,
To a beautiful, young lady with grace.
But to the unloving eye and the world’s hateful heart,
She was nothing less than a disgrace.



But in her heart she knew she was someone special,
Her mind was so different from others.
Her spirit was kind, she could talk to the wind,
She saw life in its all different colors.

When a painter came by looking for all life’s beauty,
To paint underneath golden skies.
He may have passed by her, not really seeing,
If not for the light in her eyes.



“Here sits a girl who prefers to be wild,
Than captive to a mean, hateful world.
Though she is the kindest, most innocent treasure,
The world all looks down on this girl.


The princess inside her is clear to be seen,
The golden crown shines brightly through.
A portrait of her I will paint if she lets me,
And sell it for a million or two.


Though sitting there quietly, in the breath of the country,
And muddy with feet in the lake.
The beauty inside her of her loving heart,
Is the portrait I wish I could take."

A princess is never the dress and the kingdom,
The fancy, the crown, or the trinkets.
It’s the love and the kindness, the magic and brightness,
All I saw in The Country Princess.




Tara J. Howard



Copyright 2014

Gospel Topic # 2: Atonement

"What mortal being, faced with the loss of a loved one or, indeed, standing himself or herself on the threshold of infinity, has not pondered what lies beyond the veil which separates the seen from the unseen?... 

The empty tomb that first Easter morning was the answer to Job’s question, 'If a man die, shall he live again?'"

President Thomas S. Monson, "He Is Risen": A Prophet's Testimony, April 2012, Ensign

That urge to rise above yourself is a recognition of your need for the Atonement to work in your life, and your need to be sure that it is working. After all you can do, after all your effort, you need confidence that the Atonement is working for you and on you.

President Henry B. Eyring, "Coming Unto Christ", April 2007, New Era

The Atonement of Jesus Christ is the gift of God to His children to correct and overcome the consequences of sin. Christ came to save us. If we have taken a wrong course, the Atonement of Jesus Christ can give us the assurance that sin is not a point of no return. A safe return is possible if we will follow God’s plan for our salvation.

President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, "Returning Safely to Heavenly Father", April 2009, Liahona

The Atonement is like an eraser. It can wipe away guilt and the effect of whatever it is that is causing you to feel guilty.

Guilt is spiritual pain. Do not suffer from chronic pain. Get rid of it. Be done with it. Repent and, if necessary, repent again and again and again and again until you—not the enemy—are in charge of you.

President Boyd K. Packer, "How to Survive in Enemy Territory", October 2012, Liahona

Without the Atonement, Father in Heaven’s plan of happiness could not have been placed fully into effect. The Atonement gives all the opportunity to overcome the consequences of mistakes made in life. When we obey a law, we receive a blessing. When we break a law, there is nothing left over from prior obedience to satisfy the demands of justice for that broken law. The Savior’s Atonement permits us to repent of any disobedience and thereby avoid the penalties that justice would have imposed.

Elder Richard G. Scott, "He Lives! All Glory to His Name!", May 2010, Liahona

We are His servants, and it is critical that we understand the role of the Atonement in our own lives and in the lives of those we teach. Essential to that understanding is an understanding of the relationship between justice and mercy and the Atonement, and the role of suffering and repentance in this divine process.

The awful demands of justice upon those who have violated the laws of God—the state of misery and torment described in the scriptures—can be intercepted and swept away by the Atonement of Jesus Christ.

...Sinners who are repenting will experience some suffering, but because of their repentance and the Atonement they will not experience the full, exquisite extent of eternal torment the Savior suffered for those sins.

Elder Dallin H. Oaks, "The Atonement and Faith", April 2010, Ensign

In fact, it ought to be a matter of great doctrinal consolation to us that Jesus, in the course of the Atonement, experienced all of the heartache and sorrow, all of the disappointments and injustices that the entire family of man had experienced and would experience from Adam and Eve to the end of the world in order that we would not have to face them so severely or so deeply. However heavy our load might be, it would be a lot heavier if the Savior had not gone that way before us and carried that burden with us and for us.

Elder Jeffrey R. Holland, "Lessons from Liberty Jail", September 2009 Ensign

Grace is the divine assistance or heavenly help each of us desperately needs to qualify for the celestial kingdom. Thus, the enabling power of the Atonement strengthens us to do and be good and to serve beyond our own individual desire and natural capacity.

Elder David A. Bednar, "The Atonement and the Journey of Mortality", April 2012, Liahona

The gospel is centered on the Atonement of our Lord and Savior. The Atonement provides the power to wash away sins, to heal, and to grant eternal life. All the imponderable blessings of the Atonement can be given only to those who live the principles and receive the ordinances of the gospel—faith in Jesus Christ, repentance, baptism, receiving the Holy Ghost, and enduring to the end. 

Elder L. Tom Perry, "Bring Souls Unto Me", April 2009, General Conference

Remembering the Savior obviously includes remembering His Atonement, which is symbolically represented by the bread and water as emblems of His suffering and death. We must never forget what He did for us, for without His Atonement andResurrection, life would have no meaning. With His Atonement and Resurrection, however, our lives have eternal, divine possibilities.

Elder D. Todd Christofferson, "To Always Remember Him", Liahona April 2011

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My Position Statement:

I believe in the Atonement with all my heart. Jesus Christ performed the Atonement and was crucified. Then He rose again on the third day. We can all live again because of that, and we can all be forgiven of all our sins and washed clean again through His sacrifice.

There was no way we could have ever returned to God without the atonement. We are all imperfect, and we have all sinned. The atonement was the only way we could make it back to God. 

I know that we must repent of our sins for the atonement to be able to take affect in our lives. God lives, and He provided us a way back to Him in His kingdom again someday. 

Tara Howard

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